I have written here before on my disdain for this pop culture, now also this new term, “selfies”, which is exactly the opposite of the teachings of Christ. I also include in this, as I’ve written before, today’s culture hating those of us “old.” Jacob was a cheater and had a limp, Peter had a temper, David had an affair and even had Bathsheba’s husband killed, Noah got drunk leaving himself easy prey, Jonah ran from God, Paul (as Saul) was a murderer and slave trader, Gideon was insecure, Miriam was a gossiper, Martha was a worrier, Thomas was a doubter, Sarah was impatient and doubted God, Elijah was depressed and suicidal after fighting Jezebel, Moses stuttered, Zaecheus was short, Sampson was easily deceived and taken in by Dalila, Abraham was old, Job had pride, as God allowed him to be tested, Lazarus was dead, and Judas betrayed Jesus. God doesn’t call the “perfect” and the “qualified”, He qualifies those He called! No one was EVER perfect, except our Lord. However, God loved David, and he was the apple of God’s eye. David’s cries to the Lord repenting are all through Psalms. For that is what God wants us to do…repent.
“We repent of tarnishing YOUR glory with out bitterness, meanness, unforgiveness, pridefulness, unkindness, rudeness, SELF-righteousness or any sin .Verbal and emotional abuse .” YES it is ALL SIN..” that makes others think less of YOU. We repent of gibing others the impression that YOU tolerate sin because we do. We REPENT of our arrogance and pride that have led us to think we are sufficient in ourselves.. by Anne Graham Lotz
Many young people today have such an aversion to elderly, their parents, teachers, those in authority, and our society of rules and regulations. A lot in the news today too, is the infliction of pain and bullying in schools, some that even led to suicide of the victim. There is so much violence, sex, “meism” , self, money, idolatry, and even occult in the media now, whereby, nothing is left to the imagination anymore. The most perverse act is held up as the norm now. We have no leaders that know how to lead, no one moral, to lead an example for youth, no character, manners, politeness, no one humble, integrity, or honesty anymore. Parents don’t set an example, teachers don’t teach, there are no scruples, the child is left on his own, women don’t act like women, but whores, or aggressive loud tarts, while men go their own illegal way in gangs, refusing to work or take responsibility for the children they bring into this world. In other words anything goes…and we have become Sodom and Gomorrah. And we wonder why there are so many divorces, murders, and crime and self-destruction. It is the exact opposite of the teachings of Christ, but rather our media, Hollywood, and even our Government are doing the very work of the devil himself. Emotional (or psychological) abuse consists of the intentional infliction of mental anguish or distress on the older adult.
It can involve threatening, intimidating, insulting or demeaning an individual; for example, “If you wet yourself one more time, you’re going to the nursing home,” or “If you don’t sign this, I’m not going to give you your pain medication.” “Everybody yells at everybody at some point in time,” notes Lee Stones, a gerontologist based in Thunder Bay, Ontario, and regional consultant for the Ontario Strategy to Combat Elder Abuse. “It’s not the occasional unkind word but continual marginalizing, minimizing and yelling that constitutes abuse.” Emotional abuse can also include isolating a person from friends and relatives, not allowing him or her to have contact (either by talking on the phone or receiving visitors) with people outside the immediate household. Neglect takes place when, intentionally or unintentionally, a caregiver does not support the physical, emotional and social needs of the older person. It can include failure to provide food or medication, health services, or even an enriching environment; for example, confining him or her to an empty room with nothing to do. Neglect is usually the result of caregiver overload or ignorance concerning appropriate caregiving strategies.
“Someone might take in an elderly person to live with his or her family, but the caregivers themselves may already be overwhelmed with work responsibilities or health problems of their own and not be able to provide proper care for the elderly person,” says Sharon Brangman, division chief of geriatrics at the SUNY Upstate Medical University in Syracuse, New York. In other situations, caregivers simply do not know what things they should be doing to properly care for the older individual. In extreme cases, abandonment occurs, wherein a caregiver totally deserts the elderly or dependent person. “This is where you’ve taken over care of an elderly person and you just can’t handle it anymore,” explains Laura Mosqueda, director of the Elder Abuse Forensic Center in Orange County, California. “So you might drop him off at an emergency room or you might take off for another state and not look back.” Then, too in the news are many murder cases of elderly, killed by a 40-50 year old son, too lazy to work and robbing a parent who should be respected instead of tormented.
The Bible and Treating the Elderly with respect
“I read recently in a newspaper that instances of child abuse were rising in the United States, but instances of abuse of the elderly were rising twice as fast. This is one of the indications that treatment of the elderly needs to be an area of great concern to all of us. There seems to be two views of age in today’s society. The most prevalent view seems to be that of repulsion. Age is looked upon as an incurable disease. We fight against aging, we do not want to be reminded of what time can do to us. Thus, the aged elderly person is cast from society. They are made to feel useless, a burden to family, and often are cast off, avoided except on rare occasions of birthdays and Christmas morning. Another view is that age is beautiful. That age demands respect and dignity. That the elderly are giants of the forest, wise, full of experience, worthy of our praise and adoration. This is the view the Bible holds on age. In Proverbs 23:22, Solomon exhorts his son to “harken to your Father who begot you and do not despise your mother when she is old.”
In the story of Job, we find that Elihu the younger of Job’s friends waited until the older men had spoken to Job. He also treated his communication to Job with admiration and respect, since Job was his elder. In Exodus 20:12 we find the commandment – to honor your -father and mother, that your days may be long in the land which the Lord your God gives you. In Mark 7:10-12, we find Jesus saying, “He who speaks evil of his father and mother, let him surely die.” He goes on to say that the Pharisees had made void the law of God by their disgraceful treatment of the elderly. I am reminded of Caleb, who at the age of 85 came to Joshua and took possession of that inheritance he had earned. Age demands an inheritance. Old age should be a time for ego integrity. The elderly have made their mark on life. They have performed well, and have confidence that their life was well spent in raising children, making the world a better place, and in training the next generation. They have a wealth of wisdom to share, experience to relate, expressions and advice on life to share. They await new experiences, and are getting prepared for the last experience of this life, and for a whole new world beyond death. They have earned our love and respect. Nature herself teaches us that age demands dignity and honor. The older the redwoods, the more majestic. The older wines and cheeses are, the more they are praised and honored for taste. Should it not hold true that the older a man, the more he is to be appreciated by others. I am convinced that young people are missing one of the greatest opportunities available when they do not get to know the elderly and associate with them. All too soon these towering pillars of faith and wisdom will pass from our midst and the loss will be tremendous.
In closing, let us remember 4 lessons that might make all the difference in the world on our view of the elderly. First, age does not mean that someone is useless. I have been shamed by the failure of the young to use the talents of the elderly. I am inspired by their fighting spirit. In our efforts to destroy them we have tried to make them useless. They have fought back saying, “I exist. I have something to offer you if you will accept it.” I have been amazed at the elderly people who have accepted challenges of work in the church and done fantastic work. Get to know your elderly in your neighborhood or family. You might be surprised by their wit, humor, and their ability to guide you. Secondly, allow them to share with you their life. Some of the greatest lessons I learned about life, I learned from my grandfather. He was 86 and full of cancer, yet he taught me some lessons on living. He was full of humor, wisdom, and was a strong man of faith in God. His advice I will never forget. I am reminded of Timothy as he learned from the Apostle Paul, an old warrior instructing the new recruit. Had Timothy now allowed Paul to share his life with him, the church might have been hurt, even destroyed where Timothy was concerned. Thirdly, age carries with it only one promise. That when we are old we will receive the respect, dignity and honor that is due us. That someone will care and want to return the love and care that was given so long ago to others. It is the Golden Rule in effect. They now want others to do unto them what they have done unto others. Fourthly, remember – growing old is not a disease or a woe to humanity. It is our right. It is a privilege allowed by God. It is an opportunity to be useful and productive a little longer in the service of our family and of our God. Truly age is beautiful.”
A Christian View of Divorce and Abuse
We have always taught within the Christian tradition that the marriage covenant is broken by adultery or sexual unfaithfulness in marriage. The main reason that adultery is a problem is that it results in broken trust between man and wife. If the promise is made to be monogamous, then adultery breaks that promise. But we should realize that there are other kinds of unfaithfulness. Bringing violence into one’s marriage is also unfaithfulness. Once violence has entered a relationship, trust is destroyed. If you can’t trust your [spouse] not to hit you, what can you trust?
http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/stop-walking-eggshells/201204/christian-view-divorce-and-abuse http://www.christianpost.com/news/caring-for-the-elderly-50611/ http://www.nia.nih.gov/health/publication/elder-abuse