When Your Child Backslides

willcox-smith-jessie-young-girl-in-the-ocean-surfI know there are parents out there, who have children, that know the Lord as their Savior yet, either by intention, or temptation, backslide. It is painful to watch, when we know the end times are here and Jesus could come in the Rapture at any time.  Then in pain, you get down in your knees, convinced they will never make the Rapture, once more engulfed in sin, and you can do only one thing….PRAY!

“Lord, I lift my children, grandchildren, and great grandchildren up to You today and pray, according to Your Word, that:

1.  They will know Christ as Savior early in life and desire a close relationship with You throughout their childhood, teen, and adult years. (Mark 10:13-16, Luke 2:52, 2Timothy 3:15)

2.   They will develop the discipline of prayer and time in You Word (Joshua 1:8, Daniel 6:10, Matthew 4:4, Philippians 4:6-7.

3.   You will bring into their lives godly adults and friends who will help them grow in Godly living. Psalm 1:1-3, Philippians 1:27, Proverbs 27:17, I Corinthians 4:15.

4.   You will keep them pure and strengthen them against temptation.  Job 17:9, Psalm 24:3-4,1Corinthians 6:18-20.

5.   They would develop discernment, wisdom, responsibility, and a strong conscience. 1Kings 3:11-12, 1 Timothy 1:5, Daniel 6:3.

6.    They will be CAUGHT if they wander into cheating, lies, or mischief.  Psalm 119:71, Proverbs 20:30.

7.    They will see other people as You do, treating them with love and kindness.  Matthew 25:35-40, Romans 12:10, Philippians 2:1-4.

8.   You will protect them from emotional, physical, and spiritual danger.  Psalm 28:7-9, Psalm 41 , John 17:15, 2Thesalonians 3:3.

9.    You will prepare them to be a Godly, loving and faithful spouse or prepare them to glorify YOU in their SINGLENESS.  1 Corinthians 7:7-8, and that YOU also prepare their future spouse.  2 Corinthians 6:14-15, Ephesians 5:21-33.

10.    They would leave home with an eternal perspective and Christ-like values.  Matthew 28:18-20, Galatians 2:20, Philippians 1:21.

11.   They will sense YOUR calling on their lives and their lives will count for YOUR kingdom.
Psalm 78:1-8, 103:12-18, 2Timothy 1:9.”
* From Family Life

So what do you do when you know now, especially that we are in the end times, and Jesus could come in the Rapture, at any day, and your child who was saved, is an adult, and for that matter maybe even a parent , and is sinning?   You come to the point, if you’ve gone through it before with him or her, that you cannot ram anymore.   Your relationship is fragile, as you have a child that is independent and does their “own” thing.   So what do you do? The hardest thing you can do…Step back, trust God, and pray and let go and let God.

You have fears, because you worry, that they will not make it to Heaven.  But, our soul is between Jesus and themselves.  They may be in other sin such as drugs, or worldly desires,sexual temptations.   Their children may or may not be church-goers, and even if they are taken to church, they are receiving mixed signals.  For this parent is pretending to be what they are not.  They tell their child to live one life while they are living another.   They are in essence hypocrites, Jesus says.  Their world is full of deceit.  One of the blogs here,  by A. W. Tozer, the “Old Cross and the New”, says it.  Lust and worldliness has crept into many churches.   “Oh, I’m a good person, I do this..I do that…”  But, that doesn’t get you into Heaven.   And what if you say nothing and even as a Christian you condone the behavior you see, because you don’t “want to rock the boat or hurt the friendship?”  What does Jesus say?

First, to those that condone backslidden and sinning behavior from a family member, God says, we are to be RESPONSIBLE.  Romans 14:13  Let us not therefore judge one another any more (can be translated, “let us no longer have the habit of criticizing one another.)  BUT judge this rather, that no man PUT A STUMBLING BLOCK or an occasion to fall in his brother’s (sister’s) way (tells us what is, in fact, PERMISSIBLE to judge; as Believers, we are to judge EVERY brother and sister and situation which surrounds them, irrespective what it might be, as to how we can help them, instead of harming them).   Also God says about a stumbling block, “that it shall be like a millstone hung around your neck!”  Boy, at the risk of alienating everyone, I sure wouldn’t want that heavy millstone (they used with oxen) around my neck.  God too, will call a person that condones this wrong sinful behavior into accountability, with perhaps, a harsher discipline and correction than the person sinning.  Why is it that most in the churches now don’t understand this?  Sin has invaded our pews.  And how can this sinner, that may be fornicating or doing drugs, then pretend he is “one of them” and bring their children to church, without the conviction of the Holy Spirit, driving them to their knees in tears and repentance?  Where today is the repentance?


For in 1 Corinthians 8:9 Also says, “But take heed lest by any means this liberty of yours BECOMES A STUMBLINGBLOCK to them who are weak. (WE who condone sinful behavior make men worse if, by OUR example , we teach them to act in CONTRADICTION  TO THEIR CONSCIENCE!)   It is sinning against Christ!  It makes the salvation message a lie!  Furthermore, in Matthew 10:34, Jesus said, “Think not that I come to send peace on earth, but a sword…For  I am come to set a man at VARIANCE against his father, and the daughter against her mother. And the man’s foes shall be that of his own household.”  When one is saved it causes this variance in most families, for if the “family” say, is unchristian or playing at religiosity, it causes deep dissention.  But, if you truly love God, then you must pick up that cross and follow HIM!

God expects us when we are saved, to have MORAL STANDARDS, and be strong in mind, body, and spirit , by having the Holy Spirit in us, not to be weak, but, to guard against ALL
temptations.  For we cannot bear fruit and live for HIM, if our roots are corroded in lust, sin,
and temptations.  You cannot be saved, and go to church and “pretend” to be what you are not, then go out, and live your life in the world, as if God didn’t exist.   You are being a hypocrite when you do, and God says, I will spew thee out of my mouth.   You are an abomination to him.  Ephesians, speaks of moral standards in the 4th Chapter.  Verse 17 “This I say therefore, and testify  in the Lord ” (given to Paul by the Lord as it relates to our everyday lifestyle), “that you henceforth walk not as other Gentiles walk” (how one orders ones behavior) “in the vanity of their mind” (refers to living in the spheres of emptiness; it denotes an ignorance of DIVINE things, a  Moral blindness.) 18. “Having the understanding darkened (speaks of a process completed in the past..the fall..but having results in the present) , “being alienated from the life of God” (proclaims the ONLY true life there is ) “through the IGNORANCE  that is in them” (does not refer merely to intellect, but denotes an
ignorance of Divine things),  “because of blindness of their heart” (it is a ‘WILLFUL IGNORANCE’ which brings about a ‘WILLFUL BLINDNESS,’ ie SPIRITUAL BLINDNESS).
27. “Neither give place to the Devil. (FAITH properly placed in the Cross givens Satan NO place in our lives for temptation, perversion, lust, of any kind.)

I do not believe in “once saved always saved” and have always, since I was saved 26 years ago had a fear of God.   Churches today, especially in contemporary churches which are under the “new Cross”, lenient, don’t preach sin.  It is a lie of the DEVIL!   Hebrews 6:8 says, “But that which bears thorns and briers is REJECTED” (this speaks of believers who have TURNED THEIR BACKS ON CHRIST AND THE CROSS, and now bring forth no proper fruit, but, thorns and briers) “and is nigh unto cursing  “(refers to judgment); “whose end is to be burned.” (This refers to the simple fact that if a person who was once a BELIEVER remains in that state, he will lose his SOUL.)  God gives them up…just like He gave up Esau  (the hairy one the Bible says, who gave up his inheritance and hated his brother Jacob…the ONLY one God ever said in the whole Bible, “Him do I hate!”  Yes, I believe, God can and does, let us go, when we repeat the same sin over and over, and keep coming back like a little game.

Hebrews 12:16 “Lest there be any fornicator, or PROFANE PERSON, AS ESAU, ” (he was ‘profane’ because he rejected God’s way, ie the CROSS, and the results are inevitable) “who for one morsel sold his birthright.” (He was in the Family of God, but was not OF THE FAMILY of God, which characterizes untold millions in churches today.) (*parenthesis from the Expositor’s Study Bible throughout.)  What about you?  Are you OF the family of God?

17.”For you know how that afterward, when he would have inherited the Blessing, he was REJECTED (proclaims Esau, as millions, desiring the BLESSING without the BLESSER ‘Jesus’) “for he found no place of repentance, though he sought it” (the blessing )carefully through tears.” (He like many today, wanted the blessing but he did not want to repent and change his sinful ways, placing his faith on other things other than Christ.)  God is the judge of all.  Hebrews 12:23  12:29 For our God is a consuming fire.  (the fire of God will consume EVERYTHING  that is not Faith in Christ and the Cross  [1Corinthians 3:10-17].)

Sin: 1John 1:8 “If we say that we have no sin” (refers to the sin nature)” we DECEIVE ourselves “(refers to self-deception), and the TRUTH is not in us.” (This does not refer to all Truth as it regards Believers, but rather that the Truth of the indwelling sinful nature is not in us.)   9. “If we confess our sins (and turn from our wicked ways) , He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.”  HOWEVER, vs 10 “IF we say we have NOT sinned ” (nor repent, and change, John here is denouncing the claims of sinless perfection; he is going back to Vs 8, speaking of Christians who claimed they had no sin nature) “We make HIM a LIAR “(the person who makes such a claim makes God a liar, because the Word says the OPPOSITE), “and His Word is not in us.”  (If we properly know the Word, we will properly know that perfection is not in us at present , and will not be until the TRUMP sounds.)   And 1John 1:9 “he who says he is in the light and hates his brother, mother, father, sister, is in darkness even until now.

God, I pray that you send your FIRE, I know that before we have revival, the fire will come and purge us all.   For none of us are sinless, but, most of us that have deep roots in you Lord, know when we are sinning and seek your repentance immediately.   We as Christians, check each other out.   We are there for each other.  But, if you are backslidden and hiding in a sinful way of life, keeping your life secret from other Christians, leading a double standard, you are not walking in Christ.   You need to turn from your worldly ways, and come back on your knees to Christ.  If you are a young person, who is having a problem with lust, and keep choosing the wrong person getting hurt over and over…You are not trusting God, and  are just plain impatient.  Was not Sarah 90 years old when she gave birth to Isaak?   She laughed and mocked God, and because of her impatience and lack of faith, she gave Abraham her handmaiden Hagar.   Hagar begot Ismael…who became as Esau later, the Arab nations.  But, God gave His covenant to Isaak.   She didn’t believe God, for she was old.  She couldn’t wait for HIS blessings.   For whatever is going on in the Mideast now?  Blame Sarah.

Can you wait on God?  Can you have self-control and trust only in HIM?  If you know someone who is backslidden, in a relationship that is unequally yoked, and sinning, on drugs, doing the things of the world..  Print this and give it to them…They don’t need you  to condone and overlook their behavior, lest they lose their salvation, and chance God rejecting them.  They need you to show them the TRUTH, in love and Godly CORRECTION.    They are sinners, that need the Cross, and need to repent.  One cannot repent and have the conviction of the Holy Spirit, and their conscience, unless they are Corrected.   I pray this helps those see the error of their ways, and seek your face oh Lord.   I pray for all those in this world that is like Sodom and Gomorrah, for America has lost it’s way.  There is temptations all around us..I pray for the youth of this country, to come to the CROSS.  It is the ONLY way!  Jesus is coming soon….


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