Mother’s and Daughter’s

1044540_10151493555537344_1707893350_n“A foolish woman is clamorous: she is simple, and knows nothing.” Proverbs 9:13 The “foolish woman” is similar to the “strange woman” 7:5.  The Holy Spirit often times  likens the infidelity of the female gender to spiritual adultery. Romans 7:1-4…and it all started with Eve.  The “simple” spoken of in verse 4 is appealed to by the Holy Spirit, and thwarted as being in holding herself up, yet the Holy Spirit sees her as a “foolish woman”.

I Timothy 5:3 “Honour widows.  Verse 4 says that if any widow, (ie senior woman alone, over the age of 60, needs to be taken care of by her children. ) She should not be put in need, and should have physical help when it applies. For the Bible clearly states, that women who are left alone for one reason or another, need to be helped and cared for by their children, not the Government!  I believe too, that God honors those that honor their parents when they are old.  I also believe, that God rebukes the proud, the haughty, and especially young women, in their 50’s, who mock and have disdain for their mothers (fathers).   It is not the churches job to take care of elderly women, it is the DAUGHTERS, first, sons, second; with love, caring, respect, and a knowledge that they know more than you, having lived longer.  They have seen a history of at least twenty prior to you, that you haven’t lived.

Titus 2:3 Talks about the “AGED WOMAN” that they in behavior be referred to Holiness.  Senior women have a story to tell.   They are not to be looked down on and viewed in disgust by their daughters.   Daughters, you did not live your mother’s life, and cannot take claim to that which you do not know!  That is arrogance!  A wise daughter is looked at by Gods eyes as Heavenly.   When you detest and disregard all that your mother suffered, learned, lived, and achieved in this life you are setting  yourself up as a little God.  Therefore, you are leaving yourself open to God’s rebuke!

Let me give you an example.  A woman who has seen the aftereffects of wars, lived pain, desertion, been a single mother, bore the deaths of one or more children, and yet, still in elder years, continues to learn, and can spiritually and intellectually, understand what she could not young?  Do you discard and snicker –mock such a woman?  Or is this woman the one you would like to learn from, who learned from not only being on her knees in repentance, tears, as well as the school of hard knocks; who knows the true meaning of a compassionate heart after Christ.  You see, I always, in my life, no matter what I was going through, wanted someone around me to learn from; whose brain I could pick, who went through what I did, but not only survived but OVERCAME IN CHRIST!  Even in secretarial, or sales, I needed a brain to pick.  I’m still learning at 74!  I love to learn.  I can’t get enough.

Daughter’s; If you have a Godly mother, do not treat her with disdain she knows more than you.  If you look down on this old woman, not seeing what is within as God does, when He looks at our heart, so let me tell you…; You will be judged!

I find what is on television now, with Reality TV, Desperate Housewives, etc, so disgustingly revolting; not only how women are portrayed, but, how they act, especially even in daytime tv court room drama’s.  Women are being degraded, degrading themselves, and have no conception of leading a moral, refined, educated life.  Today, anything goes.  And it is so offensive to me, to look at when I flip through stations trying to find something decent to watch.  Hollywood has taken over what once was the churches responsibility.   To me, we have gone down the sewer of life, and replaced God Almighty with the false god – “self”, where what Chris & Kim do, mean more than God.  (Sodom & Gomorrah).

Mother’s? We have to take responsibility for our actions.  For what we leave behind, should be an example of God’s crowning glory for our daughter’s, and granddaughters.

Today’s world of “women’s rights” came full force in my day, in the 60’s, with the introduction of  Helen Gurley Brown, and Gloria Steinham. When the war of Vietnam was in force, and consequently ended, so was that which came out of the “flower people young fools, including the escalation of race, women in the role of men, gay rights, and all the writer’s and Hollywoodites taking God out of our nation and home, while women including myself, divorced, leaving a trail of children from these destroyed marriages, who either did find God, or carried on worse than their mothers….Godless.  We therefore in the 60’s passed Roe vs Wade, thinking we knew more than God, and the political – social wheels are still turning.  Put on any news station, except Fox, and you will see all these women claiming they know more than God.  I think of blond,Texas Senator, fighting so hard for abortion.  Her mother had been one of the 60’s women, and pregnant as a single parent.  She too, could have been aborted, but she doesn’t think or care about the consequences, nor what happens to that baby if it is still alive after a botched abortion.   And so it goes, full circles, with stupidity ruling, while these women hold up wire coat hangers to make their point.

So, I therefore, take responsibility for my own actions in the 60’s.  I divorced, because I had a husband I loved, in fact almost worshipped, even after abuse, when I had his adulteress girlfriend  on my doorstep, with my children ages 10, 7, & 6 upstairs asleep. That divorce devastated me.  I paid the price for years and years.  I was not saved..a Christian, yes, as I did believe, and was brought up in my childhood in a Congregational church, but, I did not know God as my personal Savior.   To my children, I apologize.

My sister-in-law then, told me I should stay with the marriage.  My heart was broken. My pride was hurt. For he never protected me, had my back, nor honored the sanctity of that marriage and what it would do to our children.  And for the record? I never ever got over that divorce.  And for all my elderly years until he died in 2011, I had imagined that he would give me that apology I so desired.  It never happened.  He left me empty, having to go back in the workplace, which actually I loved, and starting from scratch at 30 years old strived to be the best, pick the brains of those I worked with more intelligent than I.  But that empty void in spite of dating for 5 years never left me.  Now? I would counsel my daughters differently than I did then.

Ah, but one of my daughters then by joining Pioneer Girls at a nearby Baptist church, got saved at 12 years old.  She is now 54.  My “perfect” one, who in reality has some faults as do we all.  Therefore, anything I did back than, was always greeted, with disdain, and mumbling under her breath, if my actions were not agreeable.  She was the child…and guess what? She STILL is my child not my mother.  For some reason, this is a disagreeable fact for her to accept.  In the first place, going back to my divorce then, her life would have been quite different , as my ex was Greek Orthodox, so she would not have been allowed in  that little Baptist church, and Pioneer Girls.  Ahhh…you see how God had another plan?  Of course I had no clue then.  However, with all my hard times that followed, I never had one ounce of  the “compassion” of Christ, given me, nor did she ever, even after I had had a total nervous breakdown in 1973, did she beg her pastor or any woman in that church to minister to me.  (Which I desperately needed). I therefore assumed then, and now, 44 years later, that she was ashamed of me.  I didn’t live up to her expectations.  The fact that God only asks that we live up to what HE expects, doesn’t seem to deter her.  She is still perfect, even though in another state I have only seen her for 1 hour in 8 years.  Daughters, do not judge and begrudge what your mother’s have gone through in this life.   They too have a story….and unless you make the same mistakes, judge not lest you be judged.  For only HE is the final judge…and He alone always knew my heart.

Wherefore, the mess that we are in as a church and country, will go now the sons and daughters of my generation.   Wow, that is a scary thought to me. I was never like that with my mother.  I  loved my mother and father more than anything.  I am a firm believer that we can only learn what to do in our future, whether it be in families or our lawmakers, if we know our history.  I lost a dear friend  at  95 several years ago, whose sons didn’t even know half the stories she talked about on the phone to me at night, in retrospect memories.  In fact, I doubt if they knew any.  All the photos they were left, with people they never knew of…..wasted.  So I write.   For I believe that out there, someone will be blessed by what I share, and have the ear to hear.  We seniors have a lot to share yet.  We are not done.  We may be beat up, wrinkled, have disabilities, or sicknesses, but while our own daughters or sons, (fathers) may have a hard time with us, still seeing us a child 44 years ago, they have no clue as to the example or people who their mother’s bless.    Philippians 1: 3 “Let nothing be done through strife and vain glory; but in lowliness of mind, let each esteem other better than themselves.”   Philip. 2:14 “Do all things without murmurings and disputings.”

I have come to the conclusion that many of us seniors have daughter’s that not only do not know them in Christ, bearing in mind they are saved, but don’t know them period.  You cannot know another if you do not have the heart of Christ, but, do not listen to their stories of their own upbringing, childhood, those related to them, and how it was in that era.  All of us have a story.  All of us.  Honor those stories, many that come with much pain, angst, and helplessness before Christ entered our lives.  It is selfish.

I’m a child of WWII.  I remember a whole different era back then in the 40’s and 50’s. We were in a cold war by that time.  My mother used to save rags and nylon stockings then, and a “ragman” used to come around our neighborhood in horse and buggy, collecting. (The nylons of course, went to make parachutes. ) There was the theme of “Rosey the Riveter”, women taking over defense jobs, as most men were in the war.  I remember the tokens, red and blue.  I remember my mother getting letters from relatives in Germany so afraid, knowing of Hitler’s horrors, and of course Mussolini, the fascists, wanting to control  and take more land.  Russia invaded Germany,  Germany invaded Poland, slaughtering.  I was the voracious reader as my mother.  I loved books then, and think back now, in my old age, how wonderful was my relationship to my mother when I was a child.  We had a victory garden too. Fresh wild strawberries and rhubarb grew in a field next to our house, out of which my mother made pies.  My Dad an electronic engineer, designed “hi-fi” then, and built speakers, selling throughout the state.  A judge I knew now retired, said in my presence, (while I glowed), “her father was a genius.”  Yes he was..a booth at the NY World’s Fair in 1939.

I also remember all who were killed in my neighborhood in that War. My friend Cliff, lost his father.  His mother clearly desolate on her Government pension.  Next door, an older couple lost both of their sons.  Next door to them, another son.  Across the street from my parents, an Italian woman, lost her husband.  It took her a long time to remarry.  Next door to her…yet more death..another son.  That war was only won, but for the wisdom and brilliance of Prime Minister of England, Winston Churchill, and his trusted advisor then friend; General Dwight D. Eisenhower, later to become President.   And under Ike was such a fearless man, that had the love of his troops taking them to hell and back, General George Patten.  In high school in the 50’s after Ike was President I did book reports, on he and Patten as well as General MacArthur.  And I loved big bands and jazz…still do!

Young people? Daughters?  And sons?  History repeats itself.  In this world of tweets and technologies? The Bible says to study to show yourself true.  Not just HIS word, but our history.  LISTEN to the stories that are begging to be told.  From your grandmother, who is so “old” you can’t stand to give her the time of day?  Or your grandfather, who just might be a veteran in this last great war.   (History repeats itself).  We are now in the world, our country, hinging upon end time prophesies as never before.  Don’t brush aside a senior’s memories  like they are not worth it, for they are.  Those of you young, learn from us who are old.   Daughters, love you mother’s.  Give them honor.  Not for the way they brought you up, unsaved but, that they gave you life!  That they held you and loved you, in spite of mitigated circumstances.   IN SPITE of all they endured, they loved you.

“He who wastes his father, and chases away his mother, is a son (daughter) who causes shame, and brings reproach.”  Proverbs 10:4  “ A foolish son is a grief to his father and bitterness to her who bore him.” Proverbs 17:25.  “A wise son (daughter) makes a glad father; but a foolish man (woman) despises his mother.”  Proverbs 10:4  “THE LORD WILL DESTROY THE HOUSE OF THE PROUD; BUT HE WILL ESTABLISH THE HOUSE OF THE WIDOW.”  God leaves us with a warning daughters, and the trouble is in this fast world now, no one “FEARS” God anymore.  The Bible may be love, yes, but it is also law, and justice and God’s wrath at the scoffers.  Daughter’s listen to this old woman.  Son’s listen.   So your father was less than perfect.  That is no excuse,  you are to HONOR HIM.   So your mother wasn’t saved way  back…and oh, poor you…It is no excuse, HONOR HER!  THE FEAR OF THE LORD IS THE BEGINNING OF KNOWLEDGE; BUT FOOLS DESPISE WISDOM AND INSTRUCTION.  (The beginning of this God-breathed road is “the FEAR of the LORD.)

Psalms 39:12 “Hear my prayer, O Lord, and give ear unto My cry; hold not Your peace at My tears; for I am a stranger with You, and a sojourner, as all my father’s were.  13. Spare me O Lord, that I may recover strength before I go hence, and be no more.” (Without that strength, I could never have gotten through all I have. I could never have endured all the pain, the suffering…even joy in suffering, having HIM as my rock hold me up when I was down.)   I therefore pray now for this younger generation, from the 20’s to the 50’s, that God moves upon your heart.  If you have a living mother or father, give them your open heart after Jesus.  Do for them, give of yourself at times, and God will honor.  For, however you treat you mother (father) so will God treat you.  Thank you Jesus.

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